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My Experiences With otherkin.com - Racism? Or Finally Accepted At Last?

Recently I joined www.otherkin.com and created a profile, signing up to the forum (as you are probably aware, especially considering I linked to the website in my previous journal entry). I did so because I was seeking comfort from a community of like-minded individuals. I wanted to discuss everything with similar people, interact with people who understand, and be among people like myself. I was also seeking some form of support, I suppose - my other-ness can be very hard for me to deal with, sometimes.

I have been on the receiving end of some very harsh posts. I think this harshness was completely unwarranted. I understand some level of skepticism but I did not expect such a cold reception and being derided. I think that some people need to come to terms with the fictionality of their kin-species, and not be so mean.

Since then, things have cleared up a little. I have a niggling feeling that some comments are still subtle attacks - there was one recently, where I asked about tail'd Fae, and they replied "trolls". I was upset at this stab at my intellect - I am certainly not as stupid as a troll. Do trolls even classify as Fae? Their tails aren't even that long. Anyway, such comments I have decided to put down to discrimination, possibly because I am an alien species or perhaps my skin color is too foreign to them. I even had a passing thought, that they might be heightist (my otherself is a lot taller than the majority of theirs, possibly even to the extent where it's intimidating). But in general, things are looking up. Some members post very helpful answers to my questions. The sun feels a little warmer on the horizon.

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You can e-mail admins if you think you were wrongly banned.

I'm sorry I didn't recognise your considerations (I see on your LJ you have said that you are going to document your progression) but it wasn't, in some cases, clear. There were some times when you would say 'We're a forgiving race' or something similar which seemed to signify that you hadn't started considering the disposition of the race. I think moments similar to this may have made people raise an eyebrow...perhaps more than me in some cases.

I too, at the moment, am going through another period of consideration...which so far has been ongoing for a few months, and which I didn't write about publically for three months; so I can appreciate a week may have been an unrealistic time for people to have expected a documented consideration from you.

I understand that you didn't mean that all otherkin have to believe that they're fictional, however you were presenting it in a way that seemed to enforce an opinion on people "You're fictional", where alot of people actually don't believe that they're fictional, or hold beliefs that don't highlight that aspect; I think this got interpreted as you trying to get an admittance out of us that we thought we were a fictional race, and therefore fiction-kin....which I don't think goes down very well.

I'm sorry that you got such harsh responses, and I was one of the people who quoted the 2.3 rule but, like I said, some people are less willing to accept fiction-kin then others; I think this belief determined some responses but, like I said, I do feel that some people's responses were unecessarily harsh.

I have known a few people who have 'broke the mold' with their kin-type, and I appreciate it personally quite alot; we shouldn't canonise kin-types too much and I think that all options for a kin-type should be considered.... although fiction, plant or machine-kin need to know how to hold their own more then others most times.

I'm glad to clear up the discrimination point for you; there are very few otherkin communities that will discriminate against a person because their kin-type is blue, or because their kin-type has red scales etc. Infact we once had a drow/dark elf-kin on ok.com (she was very nice as well ^__^).

I'm going to have to second this. I would say that it's more of a "gut-reaction" to fluff that's developed over time to weed out trolls. (I'm not a Na'vi-kin and I've never had any problem.)

Incidentally, do you now any other good ACTIVE otherkin communities? All the one's I've found seem to have caught fluff disease or are long inactive.

The Werelist is a good therian forum that also accepts otherkin (and has a fair amount of otherkin members).

Also I have heard good things about otherkin phenomenon and otherkin realms....but I don't go on there much so I couldn't give you a full reccomendation.

I have sent the admins an e-mail but have yet to receive a response.

A week is definitely too short a window of time for people to have expected documented progression and consideration. Such an expectation is ridiculously unrealistic.

It is my belief that otherkin are simply fictionkin which identify with the sort of fiction that is ages old, folkloric, and mythological. I do recall you being one of the people that quoted that regulation, so I must thank you once again for that. Some people's responses were unecessarily harsh, and I do not want to think about what it says about the community and the maintainers of the community that they did not do or say anything about and that I, the polite victim, was the only one punished.

What other 'kin-types have you seen that broke the mold? I believe I do know how to hold my own, to an extent, and I believe I did so at a decent level over on OK.com - I received messages saying people thought so and some of the replies in my thread also said so. However there seems to be an implication, "speak up or break the mold and get banned". It is very unfortunate and it is also hypocritical and an abuse of power.

I understand the gut-reaction, but I tried to illustrate how that in my case the gut-reaction was unwarranted and unnecessary. You can find otherkin communities simply by Googling "otherkin". As a quick question, can you tell me when something stops being otherkin and starts becoming fluff? Surely the border must be very hazy, a gray area.

Incidentally I have browsed Werelist.

Otherkin realms is crap to be honest lol. Otherkin community, otherkin phenomena, and otherkin alliance are the decent to really good active forums.

I have never been on Otherkin realms - why is it crap, may I ask? Do you have justifications for this assertion?

I was a member of otherkin.com and I currently lurk on Otherkin Alliance and the Werelist.

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