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Issues with my ban - why it is unjust

There are several aspects of my ban from otherkin.com that I have a problem with. I have mentioned some in comments here and there, but as this is rather disjointed I felt that it would be helpful to gather them all and document them here.

-> There has been no reply from "admin" to my e-mail which politely inquired as to the reason and outlined some of my issues with some of the comments. The lack of response is disappointing, as I believe that one of the key points to running a community fairly is contact and interaction with the memberbase.

-> My profile gives my gender as unspecified for a reason. Some members of OK.com seem to be unaware that not everyone in the world is cisgender. Gender is a spectrum and a sliding scale, not two exclusive states, and more than two options exist - there are polygender, transgender, gender neutral and bigender people like myself to consider. I feel that stating this as a reason for my not being sincere is insensitive to my psychological issues with my gender and a form of discrimination.

-> I was not given a chance to defend myself to the latest burst of posts. There were a number of recent and new responses to my introduction thread, some of which were lengthy and a fair few of which raised some very valid points, particularly the one by the Internet Lawyer. However, my chance to defend myself was taken away and it looks as if I could not answer their questions. I believe that this is a plot on behalf of the management to make me look bad. I plan to post my response to these messages regardless, here on my LJ, at a later date.

-> I was not given sufficient time for there to be any significant or meaningful change in my 'kin-type. From Dragonslore's comments and the brief discussion, it seems that I have been banned because I had not been "making an effort to discover other options" and that there had been "no great shift in my thinking". I would like to point out that indeed I have been making an effort to look into other options (Fae, aquatic types, etcetera - see the topic in the Fae subforum). I would like to point out that it had only been around a week, and for any change to occur more time is needed. I was given a lot of advice and provided with a lot of suggestions: as such, there are a lot of options for me to look into and a lot of research for me to do. A few days is not a sufficient amount of time for that to take place, and that is probably why it seemed that there has been "no great shift in my thinking". Surely the Awakened people at OK.com are aware of this.

-> The members seemed to be irked that I was not documenting all my thoughts and possible changes and that I was not providing evidence for taking their advice on board. To this I will respond by re-emphasizing the small time frame and also saying that as such reflection is a personal, internalized process, most of it was taking place inside my head. I should not have to feel pushed to provide "evidence" or to write everything down just to prove myself. I would have written up my thoughts and reflections at a later date, when my head felt clearer.

-> I am actually happy to edit my profile. I'm happy to make amendments to the 'kin-type status field of the profile form, to make it more acceptable and approvable. It seems that on OK.com if the admin takes issue to the way you label yourself, you get banned.

-> There was very little basis to ban me on. Outside of my mistake with links in my signature, I did not break the rules. Indeed, I tried hard to step lightly and follow the regulations as laid out. I believe I was polite and approachable, but also honest about my feelings and my current thoughts. The issue here is that several, if not a lot of members, broke the rules themselves (specifically rule 2.3), in some cases multiple times and even after the 2.3 rule had been quoted to them by a member. I believe there is an issue with the running of the community if someone as polite and passive as I was was banned and members who explicity broke the rules even after re-emphasis of said rules were barely even admonished by a moderator/administrator nor given a warning.

-> I realize that they have to be brutally curious of new members. However I believe that there is a definite and distinct difference between being "brutally" curious and heated, harsh, and offensive. In particular I saw them mocking me in other but related threads. This I find to be very disappointing.

-> I am not fluffy. Fluff is someone claiming to be a faerie queene with the ability to make flowers grow where she steps; fluff is a dragonkin who claims to be a dragonlord and claims the ability of pyrokinesis. I am not any of the characters from James Cameron's Avatar. I do not think I have special powers in this body. I simply identify with and feel a connection to the Na'vi race as a whole. Who are otherkin.com to judge me for that?

-> The rules explicitly state to not attack someone for their beliefs. It says that you are free to not believe what the individual says, and free to disagree. It does not say that you can attack and judge them. I have been disrespected and judged just because my 'kin-type is a little outside of the norm. I have been attacked and banned because I do not conform. This I feel is highly distasteful. I would have thought a community like otherkin.com would accept diversity and respect someone else's beliefs, especially if they typed properly and were polite. However it seems that OK.com only allows certain kinds of 'kin to join. This is a form of discrimination.